Too Little Too Late
You ever have those thoughts where when something finally happens it is too little too late. Well my DH is famous for these moments. In the last almost 14 years we have been together I have waitied for him to finally do some things I have needed of him for a very long time. One would think that after being reminded of things that need to be done it would eventually happen. So today I get this call:
A~ Hello
G~ Hey what is it we did have planned for Saturday?
(rolling of my eyes begins because I know what is coming next)
A~ Uh obviously nothing because I know you are going to tell me what it is you need to do.
G~ Well I decided to work tomorrow
A~ Yep that is typical, I guess along with having no help this week with the kids that I was also supposed to plan what we were doing for my birthday
(SILENCE)
G~ Well you said you were going to Scrapbook Expo in three weeks so to not buy you anything.
A~ Yep told you to not buy me anything but that didn't mean I wouldn't want to go to dinner or a movie or something
SO the conversation proceeds from there, I finally get mad and say I need to go and don't want to talk about it right then (I had a house full of kids that belonged to other people). An hour goes by and Ring Ring goes the phone
A~ Hello
G~ Well I want you to know I went out of my way to reschedule what I needed to do for next week.
A~ Greg I am sorry but it is too little too late
G~ What is that supposed to mean
A~ Exactly what I said I have grown to expect this of you and I am sorry but the last thing women want to hear is how you went out of your way to do something for me that I had to remind you about.
G~ Well you will never be happy will you
A~ Never said I was unhappy but that I had already come to expect the fact that if I want something I need to plan it myself.
You can tell how the rest of the conversation transpired and once again before I burst into tears I told him I needed to go becaue right now was not the time to discuss it.
Half hour later; Ring Ring
A~ Hello
G~ I got a babysitter for tomorrow so tell me where you want to go
A~ I don't want to go anywhere anymore
G~ Well why not I did what you asked and planned a babysitter
A~ Once again Greg too little too late
G~ Well fine then you call the babysitter and cancel, I obviously can't please you
A~ Greg right now is once again not the time.
So my day pretty much preceeded on like that. I don't know why my feelings get hurt each year. I have grown so accustomed to it. Don't get me wrong I do appreciate the things that are done to surprise me but man sometimes they are just "too little too late". I love my family and I know God has some great plan for me, but this can't be it. I know his plan can't be for me to just live each day the same as the other growing to expect disappointment. I don't want to question God and who am I to question God but sometimes I just wish he would enlighten me with what the plan is, KWIM. Okay thanks for letting me vent!
A~ Hello
G~ Hey what is it we did have planned for Saturday?
(rolling of my eyes begins because I know what is coming next)
A~ Uh obviously nothing because I know you are going to tell me what it is you need to do.
G~ Well I decided to work tomorrow
A~ Yep that is typical, I guess along with having no help this week with the kids that I was also supposed to plan what we were doing for my birthday
(SILENCE)
G~ Well you said you were going to Scrapbook Expo in three weeks so to not buy you anything.
A~ Yep told you to not buy me anything but that didn't mean I wouldn't want to go to dinner or a movie or something
SO the conversation proceeds from there, I finally get mad and say I need to go and don't want to talk about it right then (I had a house full of kids that belonged to other people). An hour goes by and Ring Ring goes the phone
A~ Hello
G~ Well I want you to know I went out of my way to reschedule what I needed to do for next week.
A~ Greg I am sorry but it is too little too late
G~ What is that supposed to mean
A~ Exactly what I said I have grown to expect this of you and I am sorry but the last thing women want to hear is how you went out of your way to do something for me that I had to remind you about.
G~ Well you will never be happy will you
A~ Never said I was unhappy but that I had already come to expect the fact that if I want something I need to plan it myself.
You can tell how the rest of the conversation transpired and once again before I burst into tears I told him I needed to go becaue right now was not the time to discuss it.
Half hour later; Ring Ring
A~ Hello
G~ I got a babysitter for tomorrow so tell me where you want to go
A~ I don't want to go anywhere anymore
G~ Well why not I did what you asked and planned a babysitter
A~ Once again Greg too little too late
G~ Well fine then you call the babysitter and cancel, I obviously can't please you
A~ Greg right now is once again not the time.
So my day pretty much preceeded on like that. I don't know why my feelings get hurt each year. I have grown so accustomed to it. Don't get me wrong I do appreciate the things that are done to surprise me but man sometimes they are just "too little too late". I love my family and I know God has some great plan for me, but this can't be it. I know his plan can't be for me to just live each day the same as the other growing to expect disappointment. I don't want to question God and who am I to question God but sometimes I just wish he would enlighten me with what the plan is, KWIM. Okay thanks for letting me vent!
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Sorry that this happened to you Amy. Hope things get better. Men can be such a pain in the butt.
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OH so sorry that this sort of stuff has happened to you. I deal with this same sort of thing from my hubby sometimes. I just hate the birthdays and anniversaries because, I too know that they'll end in disappointment most of the time.
Hang in there!
Aim. . .sorry this is going on. I'll give you a call and say all I have to say. My fingers my fall off when I was done with my long post. Hugs!
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Not sure if this helps, but you are not alone in the disappointment department. My DH is the CEO! LOL! Just know that God does have a plan, but we must be patient and wait for when He is ready! Hang in there and Happy Early Birthday Wishes!!
I hate to make excuses but it sounds like one of those "MAN" things!! sorta makes you want to hit them over the head and say DUH!
Well if I lived closer, I would take you for a birthday celebration!!!
It is a man thing!!! My dh has gotten much better though but we had similiar conversations earlier in our marriage. Big Hugs!!!
Men, I'm tellin' you .. we need to just get them together and collectively knock all up-side the head!
I've really been thinkin' about you this week. Hope your day tomorrow is the best that it can be.
Love ya, girlie!
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